To the Woman Navigating Loss, Infertility or Pregnancy after Loss

If you’re here, there’s a good chance your heart is carrying something heavy.

Maybe you’re waiting on test results. Maybe you’re trying again after a loss. Maybe you’re pregnant, but too scared to exhale. Maybe you’re grieving something you hadn't shared with anyone.

If that’s you, I see you. And I’m so sorry you're here. But I’m also so glad you found your way to this community.

I’ve lived through recurrent pregnancy loss, long stretches of uncertainty, and the quiet grief that takes up permanent residence in your body. I’ve been the woman who didn’t know what to ask her doctor, who blamed herself, who smiled at baby showers and cried in the car afterward.

And I built Rhea for anyone navigating pregnancy loss and infertility, because we deserve a space that gets it.

Here’s what I wish I had known at the start of it all. Five takeaways I offer to you with all the compassion in the world:

1. You Can Trust Your Body—and Still Ask Questions

You can love your body and feel deeply disappointed by it. You can be grateful for all it’s carried and still wish it had carried more. And you absolutely have the right to ask your doctors every question in your gut. Ask again if something doesn’t feel right. Get a second opinion. You are not "difficult"—you’re advocating for your life.

2. Grief and Joy Can Coexist

You might cry and laugh in the same breath. You might feel guilty for smiling. Or for not smiling. It’s okay. Pregnancy loss and trying again afterward can put you in a constant tug-of-war between hope and heartbreak. But both are true. And you don’t need to pick one. Let yourself feel it all.

3. Your Mental Health Is Just as Important as Your Hormone Levels

You are more than your lab results.This journey is emotional, hormonal, spiritual—and it’s often isolating. Please know that therapy, support groups, long walks, ugly cries, meditation, medication—all of it counts. You don’t have to hold this alone. And you shouldn't.

4. You Don’t Have to Earn Rest

You don’t need to check off a to-do list to deserve rest.You don’t have to be productive to take a nap.This is heavy, exhausting work—physically and emotionally. Give yourself permission to unplug. Cancel the plan. Take the bath. Rest is a sacred part of healing.

5. Community Is Everything

This is maybe the most important one. The silence around pregnancy loss and fertility struggles is deafening—and it doesn’t have to be. That’s why I created Rhea: to offer women a place to be seen, heard, and supported without needing to explain or justify a thing.

Whether you’re in the thick of grief or slowly stepping toward hope, there’s room for you here. We hold stories like yours with gentleness and strength.

You’re Not Alone. And You Never Have To Be Again.

Wherever you are on your path—just know this:

You are not broken. You are not too much. You are not alone.

There is life after this. But right now? Right now you get to be exactly where you are, and still be worthy of love, support, and care.

Come as you are. Stay as long as you need. We’re here.